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David Frank's avatar

#2 makes me smile :). Thanks for sharing your reflections (and your whiskey).

We just finished interviewing Kristyn Komarnicki (who is straight and doesn't experience gender dysphoria/discordance) on C&S, and she talked about the gift it was for her over the last decade or so to build relationships with queer-identifying Christians because it became a part of her own journey of reflecting on her own sexuality and gender in fruitful ways.

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Joel, thanks for sharing some of your thoughts and for going out of your comfort zone to join us at Revoice. I'm thankful for your voice in our conversations and for your openness to consider how theology in this area affects our experiences. In reading your list, I appreciate how you enjoyed talking to others and experienced community at Revoice and how the church could perhaps grow in this area. I would urge you NOT to settle for less than what you got a taste for (end of point 4, though I know your point isn't exclusively about community). We need people in your position to also fight for these things (both beloved community and spaces to talk and process about our different callings). I believe it is possible! One cue I take in my personal life and ministry has been from Tim Keller and what he calls the Alternative City from his article called The Gospel and Sex. Here's a short quote: "Christians will fall prey to the world’s views of sex unless we create a community, an alternative city. In this alternative city, singles enjoy their kingdom mission and practice sexual abstinence joyfully. They live in community with Christian families, who do not make an idol out of family or make singles feel abnormal. One of the reasons it is hard to practice the discipline of sex-free romantic involvement is that we don’t have a sufficiently large community of people creating this alternative city." I have found many in the celibate gay community have thought a lot about this, but not as many straight married people in the church have. We all will benefit when we work together as a community and love and serve one another.

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